According to the results of a recent poll published in a leading UK Newspaper the answer is definitely ‘YES’ – and the results of the poll were devastatingly clear.
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• More than 20% of both sexes claimed that snoring put them off being intimate with their partner
• Almost 30% of men said it had taken the spark out of their sex lives, and nearly 50% were embarrassed by their snoring
• Nearly 40% of couples admitted that it had pushed them into separate bedrooms and had even led to break ups and divorce in some cases
• Nearly half of women claimed that snoring had an extremely negative effect on their relationship overall, not just in bed, due to fatigue and irritability
• In the older age groups, from 45-54, the results were even more positive, and they stated that snoring had totally ruined their sex life, and 1 in 5 even claimed that it had caused a total relationship breakdown
It has been long known that in addition to these things that snoring contributes to erectile dysfunction and decreased libido, and this adds to the problem in a big way.
There’s nothing like a disturbed night’s sleep caused by a snoring partner to inject lots of friction into a relationship and this recent survey certainly proved it, according to the experts in sleep research, and relationships, who carried it out. Disturbed sleep was found to be seriously detrimental to relationships, and even just one poor night had an impact.
During the period of the study the people who slept the worse, on average, found that they were much more likely to argue with their partners on the next day. In interviews, the sources of the conflict were evaluated and irritability and fatigue were the key triggers. Heavy snoring had often forced them to sleep apart and move into separate bedrooms – for ‘survival’ reasons. Worryingly though, 70% of men and 66% of women found that this made them ‘emotionally distant’ from their partner.
One respondent said “My husband has had to sleep in a separate bedroom due to his snoring for years now. Sadly his snoring has taken the romance out of our relationship. We go to bed separately and get ready in separate rooms in the morning.”
The survey was also covered in leading US Newspapers, including The New York Times, who stated: “Instead of spontaneous interaction, couples have to make a planned effort to meet up. Over time, the loss of sexual activity can lead to a lack of intimacy and bonding”.
Spending time in bed together is crucial for couples because it is devoid of the distractions of work, children and obligations. In addition to sex, couples cuddle, touch, and chat, all of which are an important part of the bonding process that holds relationships together.
They recommend that to avoid the early untimely demise of your sex life, the guilty partner should get some form of treatment for the underlying problem – snoring. Doing so will not just improve your relationship, but also address the problem of sleep apnoea, which affects many snorers and is a rising problem due to our lifestyles.
The good news is that both snoring and sleep apnoea are very treatable. In most cases, snoring, fatigue, erectile dysfunction, decreased libido and other health issues that may be preventing sex can be easily treated and reversed.
By John Redfern