Recently published medical studies underline the fact that there are powerful benefits to be gained from sleeping together. Couples that sleep together gain more than shut-eye. So if snoring has come between you and your partner – literally – then now is the time to do something about it.
Does your partner snore loudly or pull the covers off you at night? Does he have nightmares or grind his teeth? Regardless of your partner’s sometimes annoying bedtime behaviour, the truth is that sleeping with your spouse can actually have powerful and positive effects on your relationship.
According to a study from the University of Pittsburgh, couples that sleep together will probably experience better health. The researchers found that couples that sleep together were less likely to awaken during the night and more likely to sleep soundly, and that co-sleeping could actually help to lessen the level of the stress hormone cortisol.
Cortisol is behind feelings of anxiety or stress that can lead to major health problems down the road, and not only does sleeping together help to decrease it, but Assistant Professor and study author Wendy M. Troxel also believes it could help increase oxytocin. Oxytocin is a “bonding” hormone that helps to create feelings of love and intimacy between couples, and it plays an important role in our relationships and our sex lives.
However, sharing a bed isn’t always easy. Many couples want to sleep together but because it’s disruptive they give up and retreat to separate beds. If you choose to do that, not only does this mean that you won’t reap the amazing benefits of co-sleeping, but it also means that you will lessen your chances of intimacy. You might find that your sex life suffers and your emotional connection weakens, as you no longer have as many opportunities for sexual interaction or pillow talk, all of which can help to organically create those feelings of bonding and intimacy. So take control of that snoring problem now.
If this sounds familiar, here are some easy ways to help create better rest for both you and your partner:
- Try to get on the same sleep schedule. If he’s a night owl and you’re out like a light by 10 p.m., it can be hard to find middle ground. Try to find a way to compromise: Maybe you can stay up an hour later and he can come to bed an hour earlier, or maybe he can read in bed (the new e-readers are a great way for late-night bookworms to read without disrupting their partner) while you hit the hay. The compromise won’t be easy at first, but once you start reaping the benefits of increased intimacy, you might find the adjustment worth it.
- Talk to a doctor about snoring. Is snoring the main issue behind your lack of sleep? It could indicate a health problem. Some doctors recommend taking an antihistamine before bed to help clear the passageways and promote quieter sleep, but there could be any number of factors behind snoring (including excess weight), so be sure to talk to a doctor and ask for sleeping solutions — whether it’s you or your mate who’s the culprit. Mouthpieces are an easy and quick solution and are widely recommended by the NHS.
- Tackle temperature troubles. If you can’t agree on temperature or the number of blankets that work for you, find unique ways to compromise. Maybe you can sleep under the bedspread while he sleeps on top of it with a light blanket, or maybe you can bundle up in warmer place while he goes in the buff.
It’s all about what works for you and your relationship. Snoring is the biggest factor in the ‘separate bedroom’ situation but today it is easily resolved. Use an Anti-snoring mouthpiece. It can resolve more than a snoring problem.
These mouthpieces are also referred to as Mandibular Advancement Devices (MAD’s) and can prove to be just as effective as surgery at reducing snoring.
By John Redfern