Will you give her what she really wants for Mother’s Day?

Not only is it International Woman’s Day this week, but Mothering Sunday also looms large on the horizon and the usual question comes to mind for all sons, daughters, partners and husbands.

Q. What does she want for Mother’s Day to make her feel appreciated and happy?

However, we shouldn’t really have to ask, as doing so would take away the magic, the surprise and the pleasure – and we ought to know in any case.

Should it be a lovely card, a bouquet of flowers, a potted plant, a delicious box of chocolates, her favourite wine, or a meal out to mark the occasion? Actually it should be none of these and lots of research has been done very extensively to prove it – and to find out what she wants most of all.

Young Woman Sleeping On Clouds

A.   She says she wants a really good night’s sleep.

2,000 adults were asked the question and they almost all commented on how much they slept – and whether it was undisturbed quality sleep.

Many mothers are simply hoping for the rare opportunity to stay in bed this Sunday, which seems like a fairly simple idea, but given the daily stresses and strains of normal work and home-life, many mothers simply don’t get the required amount of sleep each night.

Women only average just over 6 hours restful sleep per night and ideally they would love, and say they need around seven and a half hours, which is a level that research also suggests as it is the optimum amount for good health.

The University scientists who conducted this exercise found that just one week of poor sleep can seriously disrupt hundreds of genes that are closely linked to stress, immunity, and inflammation. We know the immediate sign of a lack of sleep all too well; and that is irritability, but it can be much worse.

Experts believe that insufficient sleep has become a worldwide epidemic, with chronic sleep deprivation linked to such serious medical problems as obesity, diabetes, cancer and immune deficiency. Obesity and weight gain of course can be a key cause of disturbed sleep through snoring and that is something that will accelerate these serious illnesses through oxygen deprivation to the brain, and lead on to obstructive sleep apnoea. Previous US research even found lack of could double the signs of skin ageing.

Other interesting key facts emerged which highlight the size of this problem for women, because although we always regard the man as the villain, particularly for snoring, that doesn’t seem to be the case any more.

·         More men than women are woken up by their partners – 11.5 per cent versus nine per cent

·         Snoring by a female partner kept one in ten awake while a further seven per cent suffered because of their own snoring

As a further sign that things have changed, more and more women are now bringing sleep-related concerns to their doctors, but the statistics aren’t pointing to the real problems that exist.  Men with the condition are likely to report snoring, snorting, or even waking up and gasping for breath – something that can be a sign of obstructive sleep apnea, and a dangerous condition. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to report fatigue, depression and un-refreshing sleep  – and overlook the fact that snoring plays a major part in this problem.

Many couples think they can solve the problem by sleeping apart but this only covers it up and doesn’t really change things. Simple mouthpieces, available for both men and women, are now widely used at night to stop snoring. Thousands of these SleepPro NHS Approved oral appliances are used throughout the UK and even issued and recommended by our leading hospitals and clinics – and they will safeguard your future health, and bring the refreshed feeling and a smile back to the morning awakening, simply by preventing dangerous snoring.

John Redfern